There’s Nothing About You I Don’t Like — part 2

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“There’s nothing about you I don’t like.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“I want you to be healthy.”
“I want you to see my doctors.”

“There’s nothing about you I don’t like.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“I want you to be healthy.”
“I want you to exercise more. Here’s what I’m telling you to do:”

“There’s nothing about you I don’t like.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“I want you to be healthy.”
“I want you to change what you eat and how you eat. Do my diet, my meal plan.”

“There’s nothing about you I don’t like.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“I want you to be healthy.”
“Empty your home of food that doesn’t match my meal plan. You do it or I will.”

“There’s nothing about you I don’t like.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“I care about you and I want the best for you.”
“Clear out your home. Go minimalist. Be free to travel.”

“There’s nothing about you I don’t like.”
~“Are you trying to change me?”
“Yes.”
~“If I change, I want to do it on my terms, because I want to, in ways that work for me. I can’t do all of what you’re telling me, AND what I need to do, and what’s important to me.”

“You can do it all.”

~“I’ve tried doing too much before. I burned myself out. I’m not willing to do that again. I’m saying “No.””
“You can do it all. Just do it. It’s a choice. It’s about priorities.”
~“Yes, it’s a choice. It’s about priorities. I’m saying I can’t do it all, and my priorities are what I want and need in my life, not what you’re telling me to do.”
“Just do your priorities less. You can do it all.”

“I want the best for you.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“I’m doing this because I care.”
“It’s for your own good.”

“I’m asking you to do this because I know what works.”
~“That’s what works for you. What about what works for me?”
“I’ve done my research. I know what works.”
“You just need to do what I’m saying. It’s not a big deal.”

“I want the best for you.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“I want you to be healthy.”
“I know what you need to be there, to meet me, to be with me, doing my hobbies and activities.”

~“Do you want to do my hobbies and activities too? I’ll buy us season passes for…”
“Maaaaybe, I might try it once, like on your birthday, but I prefer to do my activities. I wouldn’t do it regularly.”

~“If there’s nothing about me you don’t like, why are you trying to change me?”

“It’s because I care.”
“I want the best for you.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“It’s for your own good.”

~“Do you need me to change for for us to be together?”
~“Is there really nothing about me that you don’t like? Because it seems like you’re trying to change a lot about me.”

“It’s because I care.”
“I want the best for you.”
“I want to be with you for a long time.”
“You need to do this. It’s for your own good.”

~“Do you want to be with me? Or do you want to be with who you want to mold me into becoming?”

“I want the best for you.”
“I want you to be healthy, and to be the best you can be.”
“I want us to be together, to do the things I love to do — together.”
“I need you to do this.”

~“Your definition of healthy is different from mine. I’ve tried to explain: what I do, what I’ve done, what I want to do, and what I’m willing to do, and when.”

“You can do it all.”

~“No. No more explanations. No more. My answer is NO.”

He wants the best for me.
He wants me to be healthy and be the best I can be.
He wants us to be together for a long time.
I want those too, but our definitions and how to get there are different.

Even good intentions can have a hurtful impact.

If I have to choose between myself (who I am and who I want to work towards being) and your prescription of who you want me to be, I choose me.

I choose me.

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Writer, creator, human, muse, scribe… Journey of my voice via the page. Relationships. Non-monogamy. Life. Love. Childhood. Wounding. Healing. Transformation.

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Bella Reyna

Bella Reyna

Writer, creator, human, muse, scribe… Journey of my voice via the page. Relationships. Non-monogamy. Life. Love. Childhood. Wounding. Healing. Transformation.