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To the Man Who Rejected Me

A Letter Of Thanks — To the Man Who Rejected Me, Thank you. Thank you for telling me that we weren’t a good fit. Thank you for letting me know before we got closer, or became physical. You recognized or noticed something that I didn’t yet see. You identified an incompatibility. I don’t know what…

Rejection

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To My Future Partner

A Letter of Invitation & Intention — To My Future Partner, I don’t need you to complete me. I’m already whole. I don’t want to complete you. You’re already whole. Let’s complement each other, support each other, be there for each other. Remind each other of our strengths when we forget. Be there for each other in weaknesses or failures. Celebrate…

Relationships Love Dating

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Writing Index — Image/Preview Links

To be updated regularly… — Writing Index — Text List Most Popular Posts How We Slept Together, and What It Meant for Our Relationship Early Non-Monogamy He Said I Was Mean — Jealousy vs. Compersion He Went on Vacation With His Other Lover Yes, I’m Non-Monogamous. …

Index

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Writing Index — Text List

To be updated regularly… — Writing Index — Image/Preview Links Most Popular Posts How We Slept Together, and What It Meant for Our Relationship Early Non-Monogamy He Said I Was Mean — Jealousy vs. Compersion He Went on Vacation With His Other Lover Yes, I’m Non-Monogamous. …

Index

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2 days ago

My Cat Mailed Her Favourite Toy to California

Cats & Boxes — A while back, I sent a box to someone in California. She received it, and sent me an email thanking me for the package. In her email, she included a photo, asking me about a surprise item that didn’t quite fit with the other items I’d sent. It was my…

Cats

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My Cat Mailed Her Favourite Toy to California

Published in Dating Diaries

·4 days ago

The Man Who Took up All The Space (Online Dating)

He Was in the Dark, in More Ways Than One. — We matched on a dating app, and I sent him an intro message. He replied with a series of long, but thoughtful messages: writing about what I had on my profile, how it resonated with him, what his experience was with a few topics, and so on. He wrote that…

Dating

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Published in Pumpkin’s Adventures

·Aug 11

A Child Explains Where Are Babies Made

Pumpkin’s Perspective on Pregnancy (Part 1) — I learned where babies grow up before they get borned!!! *Disclaimer: This is written from a child’s perspective. Information may not be fully accurate or true.* There’s a special place where a little baby grows before it’s borned. It’s kinda like a kangaroo pouch, but it’s on the inside of…

Pregnancy

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Published in Dating Diaries

·Aug 9

To the Man I Rejected

Goodbye Can Be a Gift — To the Man I Rejected, We had one conversation after messaging for a while, and I told you that I didn’t feel what I was looking for. I thanked you for our conversation, and said that I wasn’t going to continue anything with you. I wished you well. Your reaction…

Rejection

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Published in Dating Diaries

·Aug 6

My Ex Files

Stories of Past Relationships — Collections of stories about my past relationships and exes My Ex Files: Romance, Depth, & Swimming in the Shallows Stories of multiple exes and past relationships, including lessons and surprises. My Ex Files: Romance, Depth, & Swimming in the Shallows bellareynawrites.medium.com My Ex Files: The Controller A short-lived relationship with someone who first proudly accepted me as I was, then said he needed me to change dramatically. The relationship had classic patterns of narcissistic behaviours and abuse.

Relationships Love Dating

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My Ex Files

Stories of Past Relationships

Image of a green street sign with white lettering that reads “time to say goodbye” The sign hangs from a horizontal metal pole. The blurred background shows a clock and city buildings. — Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

Collections of stories about my past relationships and exes

My Ex Files: Romance, Depth, & Swimming in the Shallows

Stories of multiple exes and past relationships, including lessons and surprises.

Bella Reyna

My Ex Files: Romance, Depth, & Swimming in the Shallows

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4 stories

Photo of two hands making a heart in front of the camera, with the beach and water in the background. In the middle of the heart is a couple, sitting in the sand, close to each other.

Photo of yellow balloons, against a rough, off-white background. Two and a half balloons are visible in the photo. The two full balloons have smiling faces on them, and the faces are looking at each other.

My Ex Files: The Controller

A short-lived relationship with someone who first proudly accepted me as I was, then said he needed me to change dramatically. The relationship had classic patterns of narcissistic behaviours and abuse.

Bella Reyna

My Ex Files: The Controller

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14 stories

Photo of a woman laying on her side, on the corner of the bed, curled up small. She’s facing the camera, with her knees bent, leaning forward. Her hands are touching her knees, and her long, brown hair cascades off the side of the bed towards the floor.

Photo of a heart made of golden chain, against a purple background.

Photo of a dove in flight. In the background, another dove is visible at resting perch. Trees or dark greenery is in the background.

My Ex Files: Dennis

The man I almost married. We were together for 5 years, then tried to be friends for a few years afterwards. We were unhealthy for each other. We were incompatible. Sometimes love isn’t enough.

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My Ex Files: Dennis

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Image of a light pink, paper heart hanging from a thin red and white striped string. The paper heart is torn down the middle, from top almost to the bottom. The background is black.

Photo of a woman laying on a bed with her back arched. She’s wearing a black lace teddy. Her hips and thighs are visible in the photo, as well as her torso and arms. One hand reaches across her body and trails along her waist. The other arm lays along her side.

Photo of a woman walking away from the camera, towards to water and blue sky. Her arm is behind her, holding the hand of someone who’s are is reaching forward to her.

Published in Dating Diaries

·Aug 5

I Miss Sex — And I Could Have It. Here’s Why I Wait.

(Sex Is One of My Superpowers — Part 5) — There are so many reasons to have sex. Years ago, I was able to have sex that was purely physical and without attachment. I was able to have flings and one night stands. In some ways, I miss that, because I meet certain people now who I want to be…

Sex

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I Miss Sex — and I Could Have It. Here’s Why I Wait.